Coping on Mother’s Day

Mothers and Fathers day can be one of the hardest days of the year for some unfortunate people.  Since losing my mam almost two years ago, I can’t stand the thought of mothers day coming around.  Personally I’ve always thought parents should be appreciated every single day of the year, not just a day.  This will be my second mothers day without my mam and last year, I really wasn’t myself and in the right frame of mind to deal with it properly.  But this year, I wanted to be mature about it and write a post to those who can relate and are not lucky to have their mothers present.  One thing I do know is, I’m definitely not alone, there are soooo many other people on the planet that are dealing with the same or similar situation.

The weird thing is, my mother’s death still hasn’t hit me almost two years on.  The other day I even bought a mothers day card… like seriously Gwawr wtf!!  Grief does strange things to people, and I suppose it’s totally normal! (i think….)

First thing I would like to say is, don’t be like me last year.  I was angry at everyone and everything, I thought the whole world was against me and the day was an absolute nightmare!  Don’t be angry at your mum, friends, family and definitely don’t be angry at yourself.  Whatever the reason you aren’t celebrating the day, it’s not your fault.

 

Relax

A day like mothers day when your mother isn’t around is a perfect day to have some me-time.  How about booking yourself a spa day?  maybe go with a friend or family member?  Sometimes money can be tight so why not have a pamper day at home?  Light a few candles in the bathroom, have a nice long bath, read, put a face mask on, treat yourself!  Personally i think it’s best to switch all electronics such as mobiles and laptops off, it’s bad enough seeing all the mothers day posts all over social media, but how bad can a technology detox be?!

 

Try a new hobby or book a day out

Trying a new hobby can get your mind off other things!  Why not try something adventurous? something
you’ve always wanted to do?!  Try some new recipes out, start reading, go climb a mountain!  Whatever it is you fancy taking on, it might be the best thing you’ll ever do!  Booking a day out doing an activity can also be fun and cheer you up!  Why not try some of my DIYs!

 

Spend time with your loved ones

Your mum might unfortunately not be around, but there are some other people in your life that you can appreciate and spend the day right?!  If you’re lucky enough to have someone like a mother in your life, spend the day with them, treat them!  Mothers day can also be the perfect day to spend time with your Dad if you’re fortunate enough to have him around!

 

Duvet Day

This is basically every Sunday for me.. lol.  Sometimes a duvet day is all you need!  Whether you spend it on your own or with a friend/partner etc., a duvet day can help you relax and catch up on some rest.  Why not get a bit of munch and watch netflix all day?!  This can easily make you forget about mothers day.. and even if it doesn’t, whats wrong with having a good old cry in bed?!

 

Go lay flowers on your Mum’s grave

This is a slightly obvious one but
going to visit and lay flowers on your mums grave (if deceased) is always a lovely thing to do whatever day it is.  This can (in a weird way)  cheer you up as you’re doing a good thing and can think about your mum and all the memories you shared together.

 

Look back..

looking back at memories can be one of the most precious things in life.  I absolutely love looking at old photos before my mum had children.  The ones i love most are the pictures of my mum and dad before they got married/newly weds, the pictures remind me so much of me and my boyfriend today!  There is no better feeling than seeing photos of my Mam smile!  Maybe you can spend a day starting a big scrap book full of memories!

 

 

I hope this helped you out if you are like me this mothers day.  It can be such a hard day but it really doesn’t have to be!  Just remember: Mothers day is just one day, your mother stays with you for life 🙂 x

6 Comments

  1. March 24, 2017 / 3:43 pm

    What a lovely post to write about a time that must be so incredibly difficult. I’m extremely lucky to still have my mother in my life and I know not to take that for granted. x

  2. March 24, 2017 / 6:32 pm

    While I still have my mum, I lost my dad 10 years ago so know how tough it can be not to have a parent when it’s mothers day or fathers day. It sucks as all I want to do is go do something to take my mind off of it, but everyones always going to be busy with their mums/dads… well, most people. I’m lucky I’ve got a friend now who’s in the same situation so we can hang out together and just ignore the fact its fathers day!

    • March 24, 2017 / 7:14 pm

      Aww I’m so sorry about your dad, life can be such a bitch! 🙁 I know exactly how you feel! You’re so lucky to have a friend you can relate to and hang out with! x

  3. March 29, 2017 / 7:43 pm

    Such a lovely post! It’s been 10 years since one of my parents passed, and I must tell you it’s not something you cope with. I’m sure your mum is proud of you, stay strong <3

    • March 29, 2017 / 8:00 pm

      thank you! I’m so sorry about that 🙁 Thank you so much for your kind words x

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